Denigrating Michelle Obama with the ‘angry black woman’ slur
By Kathleen Parker,
I can’t speak for Michelle Obama, but call me an angry white woman. If the first lady isn’t angry, she certainly has every right to be.
Like every woman I know, black or white, I’ve watched Mrs. Obama
with respect, admiration and arm-envy. Every woman. We talk about her
unique role in American history, and we are proud and impressed. I’ve
interviewed a former first lady’s chief of staff, various Republican
operatives, and former staffers for previous presidents, and without
exception, they all say the same thing: “I admire her so much.”
Thus, the recent discussion about Mrs. Obama’s manner and temperament, thanks to Jodi Kantor’s new book, “The Obamas,”
is maddening. Yet again, the first lady is being characterized as the
thing women can never be — angry. Heaven forbid she should butt heads
with that pussycat Rahm Emanuel, as Kantor reports. Who doesn’t butt
heads with Emanuel? Head-butting is his default mode.
Whether or
not it is true, this and other minor third-party anecdotes were enough
to resurrect the angry-woman mantra that began when Barack Obama started
his run for president. Responding to the controversy, Mrs. Obama, who
usually keeps to herself and her family, came out to publicly defend
herself against the angry-black-woman stereotype.
Speaking to
CBS’s Gayle King, she said, “I guess it’s more interesting to imagine
this conflicted situation here and a strong woman — you know? But that’s
been an image that people have tried to paint of me since, you know,
the day Barack announced, that I’m some angry black woman.”
I
guess it is more interesting but no less infuriating. The difficulty, of
course, is finding people who have used those precise words — “angry
black woman.” By midday Friday, if you Googled “angry black woman,” 65
million links popped up, many including the name Michelle Obama. Yet
most direct quotes related to the first lady referred to an “angry
woman,” rather than an “angry black woman.” Is the racial aspect of the
criticism an extrapolation of Mrs. Obama and her defenders? It might be
but for the fact that those calling her angry happen to be white.
On
Thursday, Fox News’s Sean Hannity asked his show’s panel if they knew
any “prominent” person who used those words. The panelists, who clearly
didn’t want to say anything critical of the first lady, couldn’t produce
a name. Indeed, it may be that this trope has evolved from the swamp of
the blogosphere, where anonymous trolls say despicable things from the
cowardly comfort of their subterranean wormholes.
It isn’t hard to
find evidence of racial undertones in these anonymous missives, one of
which materialized in my inbox recently. Comment threads on right-wing
blogs frequently feature hateful, racist remarks about the first lady.
They don’t deserve a pica of my column space, but suffice to say, they
need no translation.
Meanwhile, what isn’t said explicitly by
“prominent” people is often implied. Attempting to prod his guests into
saying something negative about Mrs. Obama, Hannity pulled out the old
clip of Michelle saying that she was proud of her country for the first
time when her husband was running for the Democratic Party’s nomination.
This has been played and replayed thousands of times and presented as
evidence that Mrs. Obama doesn’t really love her country, that she
wasn’t proud of it until her husband was running for president. So what?
These
perhaps were not the best words for a future first lady, but I have no
trouble understanding how she felt in that moment. It may be easy for
fortunate whites to say they’ve always been proud of America, though
they’re probably lying. It is less easy for someone whose ancestors were
slaves and whose own parents remember when blacks couldn’t vote and
were lynched for trying in some parts of the country. Given that
history, one can forgive a few ill-chosen words uttered in an emotional
moment.
But no. Mrs. Obama has been paying for her remarks ever
since. If she isn’t smiling at the camera or looking riveted by every
instant of her public life, she’s an angry woman.
Despite the
pain these critiques cause Mrs. Obama and other African American women
who identify with her, I do believe that these feelings are not
particularly widespread. Most see the first lady as she is: a beautiful,
gracious, intelligent, elegant, devoted wife and mother of whom we can
be proud.
Those who insult her insult us all, and, yes, we should be angry.
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